Enduring Life’s Adversity with Resilience

By Sarah. M Agnew, Provisional Psychologist

Fortunately, resilience is not an innate trait that some people are born with, and others are not. Instead, it is a set of skills and attitudes that can be learned and developed over time. In this blog, I will explore what resilience is, why it is important, and how to build it.

Stress and adversity are inevitable parts of life. From minor setbacks to major traumas, everyone faces
challenges that can take a toll on their mental health. The ability to bounce back from adversity is what
sets resilient people apart from those who struggle to cope. Having the capacity to recover quickly from
difficulties, adapt to change, and thrive despite hardship, is the bread and butter of resilience.
Fortunately, resilience is not an innate trait that some people are born with, and others are not. Instead,
it is a set of skills and attitudes that can be learned and developed over time. In this blog, I will explore what resilience is, why it is important, and how to build it.

What exactly is resilience?

Resilience involves “bouncing-back. It is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult
or challenging life experiences, notably through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility and
adjustment tobothexternal and internal demands. Resilience is the capacity to deal with stress, pain,
and adversity successfully rather than the absence of these things. Although resilient people are not
immune to stress, they have learned techniques and methods for dealing with it and recovering from
failures. Among these abilities are emotional control, goal setting, problem-solving, social support, and
encouraging self-talk. Resilient people are aware of situations, their emotional reactions, and the
behaviour of those around them.

Yes okay, but why is resilience important ?
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Resilience is essential for both mental and physical health. Chronic stress can lead to a range of health
problems, including anxiety, depression, and in some cases physical ailments such as immune system
disorders. Those who are resilient are better able to manage stress and are less likely to suffer from
negative health effects. People with resilience are also more equipped to accomplish their objectives,
follow their passions, and lead fulfilling lives. By building resilience, we can increase our capacity to
overcome obstacles, learn from our experiences, and grow stronger over time.

 So, tell me some ways to develop resilience ...

• Practice self-care: Self-care is essential for resilience. This means taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Exercise regularly, eat a healthy diet, get enough sleep, and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
• Build social support: Social support is a crucial factor in resilience. Cultivating meaningful relationships with friends, family, and colleagues. Join a support group or seek out a therapist orcounsellor if you need additional support.
• Develop emotional regulation skills: Emotional regulation is the ability to manage and regulate your emotions effectively. Learn to identify and label your emotions, practice mindfulness, and develophealthy coping strategies such as deep breathing or meditation.
• Set realistic goals: Setting and achieving goals can increase self-efficacy and resilience. However, it is
• Set realistic goals that are achievable and meaningful to you. Break larger goals down into smaller, more manageable steps, and celebrate your successes along the way.
• Practice positive self-talk: The way you talk to yourself can have a profound impact on your resilience.
• Practice positive self-talk by reframing negative thoughts and focusing on your strengths and accomplishments.
• Seek out learning opportunities: Resilient people view setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Seek out opportunities to learn new skills, take on new challenges, and try new experiences.
• Practice gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful tool for resilience. Take time each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for, and express gratitude to others when possible.

 In conclusion and something to reflect upon ...

"As resilience is a critical skill for managing stress and thriving in life. Remembering the resilience is 
not a fixed trait, but a set of skills and attitudes that can be developed with practice and perseverance.
We can all build resilience, we can all overcome obstacles, we can all adapt to change, we can all live
fulfilling lives. The quality of resilience improves the quality of life of a person.
Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient."
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- Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

About the Author:
Sarah M. Agnew is a compassionate and skilled Psychologist with 6 years of experience working
with individuals, families and groups from diverse backgrounds and life stages. Her approach is
holistic, client-centered, and focused on resolving problems. Sarah is passionate about guiding
others to thrive and flourish through adversity and make positive changes to enhance their overall
well-being. She enjoys writing and believes firmly in the process of sharing information to birth
new understanding perspective.